Please Don't Fear the Tears

Please Don’t Fear the Tears

Why Crying can be good for you


Crying is a natural, human experience. Women tend to have an easier acceptance of this fact. Statistics show that women cry 3-5 times more than men on average.

Crying is the shedding of tears in response to an emotional state and lacrimation is the non-emotional shedding of tears.

Did you know that your body creates three types of tears?

Basal tears are produced to keep your cornea nourished and your eyes lubricated. Reflex tears are responsible for washing out any irritants such as vapors and foreign particles and then we have the Psychic tears!

Psychic tears are also known as the “crying” tears. These are the tears produced by emotions such as anger, stress, sadness, physical pain and even pleasure.

Psychic tears contain a natural painkiller called leucine enkephalin. That’s why you tend to feel better after having a good cry.

Crying is also a form of non-verbal communication that signals the need for support and help from those around you in your time of need.

Okay, I’m done with the scientific facts….

Why do so many still consider crying a sign of weakness?

My guess is this stems from cultural backgrounds and from how your parents or caregivers responded to emotions.

Crying is an expression of feeling an emotion deeply. That does not mean that you should be considered a “basket case”.

If life has been difficult for you, energetic walls may have been constructed around your heart, as an effort to protect you from further emotional pain.

Once these walls are in place, the ability to give and receive love can become more difficult. The ability to feel things deeply is also a challenge. Witnessing someone cry in front of you can become quite uncomfortable, and even make you angry.

Crying is an emotion that can become energetically trapped in the body. When this happens, it’s usually because you were not in a safe space to allow the tears to flow.

After releasing the trapped emotion of Crying, using The Body Code and Emotion Code technique, it’s not unusual to have an emotional release of crying.


The first time I heard the term “Highly Sensitive Person”, I was attending a marriage counseling session.

This counselor handed me the book “The Highly Sensitive Person” and told me I should read it.

My immediate was response was, “Do you have a book for my husband to read called “The Highly Insensitive Person”?

I mean, it was only fair…. Why should I be singled out? After all, it takes two to Tango….

What exactly is a Highly Sensitive Person?

According to a Psychology Today article from 7/27/2017, a Highly Sensitive Person has these characteristics;

  • Has a rich and complex inner life
  • Is deeply moved by the arts and music
  • Gets easily overwhelmed
  • Has difficulty performing a task when observed
  • Easily startles
  • Is sensitive to pain, caffeine and hunger
  • Is attuned to inner bodily sensations
  • Readily notices sensory change


How does one cope with these attributes? It’s important that you surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, instead of try to change you.

Discovering techniques such as The Body Code, Emotion Code, Reiki and meditation are very helpful.

Sharing your lens with the world is also helpful. We tend to see things in a way that others can’t see and it’s quite beautiful.

Let me be clear about one thing. HSP’s are not weak. I can’t speak for others, but I can speak for myself. Believe it or not, many of us go into an autopilot mode during a crisis and take care of the situation without hesitation. When cornered, we fight back and stand up for ourselves and for others.

Crying is my way of releasing my emotions. It’s unfortunate that it can make some people uncomfortable.

Do you fear your tears? Do you have trouble feeling your emotions? Do your emotions get trapped in your body in the form of muscular tension or digestive distress?

What part of yourself would you like to rediscover and what parts would you like to release?

My hope is that you find balance in your life and that there is a safe place for you to shed those tears.

May there be more tears of joy than sorrow for you this holiday season!

*References-Elizabeth Goldbaum- statistics, Dr. Nick Knight-Crying science, Psychology Today 7/27/2017